This is a news that falls into the category of rising graph. More and more techies find themselve at losing end when it comes to managing codes of their life. This brilliant techie Amit Budhiraja from Infosys could not do nice scripting of her life. Smothered his wife Rinku Sachdeva ususal suspicion of extra marital affairs. It all resulted in murder of Rinku and then suicide by Amit.
Amit's friends said he was 'an intelligent bloke' they ever come across.
"He was very intelligent. Amit would use network sniffers to peep into what was happening in others' desktops," recalled a friend, who came to St John's Hospital.
"People used to be very careful of their computer security as they knew that there was a 'Peeping Tom' monitoring their actions. Amit used a software called Iris to replicate what was displayed on a desktop," the friends added.
I find this sorry but understandable. I can also understand why this murder cum suicide is inviting so much of the intrerst in US and executives here. Wake up you geeks!!!
Bharati Deshpande
8:38 PM
It was not adultery of his wife which he confirmed by webcam by the way but that she threatened a false dowry case that led to him killing rinku .
watch www.genderindian.sulekha.com
Anonymous
7:09 AM
I agree that Amit did not have any option. Consier the situation. Your wife talking to her lover in your house and talking of filing a false harassment case against you. What women don't realize is that the unjust laws like the dowry law and Domestic Violence Law are pushing men towards the edge. I can tell you what Amit's future would have been - He and his parents would have been behind bars due to the false dowry allegations that Amit alleges that Rinku was contemplating. Generally, husbands have to shell out anything from 5 Lakhs to 4 crores to the wife to "compromise" so that she takes the case back. That is when the husband had been a gentleman (like described by Amit's colleagues). The threat of false accusations and seeing his family behind bars can push anyone to the brink. Add to that the infidelity (atelast perceived by Amit. We'll never know whether he was right or wrong) by the wife. His future would have been destroyed. He and his family would end up penniless, humiliated and socially destroyed while Rinku would have ended up richer and would probably have led a normal family life with her lover (if one existed).
Who is to blame ? The Ultra feminist laws. Had the threat of a false case not been there, Amit would have probably thought of his future and who knows, maybe this tragedy could have been averted. But when your future is in jail due to a a cheating wife, the injustice gets to a man and he ends up taking law in his own hands.
We should be prepared to see many more Rinkus and Amits unless the laws are made fair and just.
God bless them both. They didn't deserve to die.. just because of the travails of marriage. Its the Law that killed them
I regret the loss of lives.
Anonymous
7:09 AM
I agree that Amit did not have any option. Consier the situation. Your wife talking to her lover in your house and talking of filing a false harassment case against you. What women don't realize is that the unjust laws like the dowry law and Domestic Violence Law are pushing men towards the edge. I can tell you what Amit's future would have been - He and his parents would have been behind bars due to the false dowry allegations that Amit alleges that Rinku was contemplating. Generally, husbands have to shell out anything from 5 Lakhs to 4 crores to the wife to "compromise" so that she takes the case back. That is when the husband had been a gentleman (like described by Amit's colleagues). The threat of false accusations and seeing his family behind bars can push anyone to the brink. Add to that the infidelity (atelast perceived by Amit. We'll never know whether he was right or wrong) by the wife. His future would have been destroyed. He and his family would end up penniless, humiliated and socially destroyed while Rinku would have ended up richer and would probably have led a normal family life with her lover (if one existed).
Who is to blame ? The Ultra feminist laws. Had the threat of a false case not been there, Amit would have probably thought of his future and who knows, maybe this tragedy could have been averted. But when your future is in jail due to a a cheating wife, the injustice gets to a man and he ends up taking law in his own hands.
We should be prepared to see many more Rinkus and Amits unless the laws are made fair and just.
God bless them both. They didn't deserve to die.. just because of the travails of marriage. Its the Law that killed them
I regret the loss of lives.
Ankush
11:02 PM
Bharati:
I have responded to your comments on your blog at www.genderindian.sulekha.com, in case you haven't read please do so.
Andy:
Saluting Amit and stating he had no option is like joining the gang of idiotic men with a foolish mindset similar to that of a murderer. I am a guy, and please know that there has to be a reason for existence of ultra feminist laws (as you call them), all international and domestic laws aswell give more power to women. AND WHY???? Cause men have abused women for generations and have gotten away with it, time to protect women. No harm in that. We men are paying for the misdeeds committed by the men of the past, and men who are doing it in the present, time to FESS UP AND FACE IT. We are also paying for the misdeeds of women who support the actions of dowry and participate in them with their husbands.
As far as women misusing the dowry allegations, there are always few bad apples in the society who will exploit this avenue, and Rinku paid a heavy price for it without participating in it. I know for a fact that, AMIT EXPLOITED THIS REASON OF DOWRY THREAT, to justify his murdering actions, though he was never threatened with dowry allegations, and all you men supporting it are foolish enough to believe that he was stating the truth. But I guess you will never understand. All of you who think like Amit and support this action, of murdering his wife, as being justifiable on crappy reasons like fear of dowry allegation, shame on you. Imagine supporting an act like MURDER, as being justifiable, good luck to you.
You have used words like cheating wife in your statements in spite of knowing the fact that no proof exits of that except for a statement made by a person who is a murderer in the first place, and if you want further introspect on this issue you could go to:
http://sachiniti.wordpress.com/2008/03/25/the-rinku-sachdeva-i-knew/
and read comment #78, and make up your mind on this issue. Also even if you want to force yourself to believe that there was any truth to the issue, please do a self introspect on your statement, as you seem to be stating that murdering a wife is justifiable on assumption of perceived infidelity. Hell Amit himself said that he THOUGHT his wife will use the dowry allegation, not that she did. Now if that’s what you wanna represent, go for it. Women do need ultra feminist laws (as you call them) to protect against men with your mindset.
Rinku was not one of those women to use false allegations on dowry, she had her self respect and integrity, and would not stoop to that, and neither would her family. Its for you to see that its been a month since her death and we have done nothing of that sort to put Amit or his parents in trouble. I am Rinkus Bro in Law.
Anyway there is nothing that can be said to convince you, but we cannot stand here and be silent and not make a statement, if you have initiated making false and unreasonable statements in your previous blog. Peace
Unknown
3:06 AM
Ankush: AMIT EXPLOITED THIS REASON OF DOWRY THREAT, to justify his murdering actions, though he was never threatened with dowry allegations
> I agree, he should have just done the bitch but not killed himself.
saloni
12:50 AM
Rahul you f'in prick, may be some one should do you aswell
Unknown
10:08 PM
If Amit had proof of his wife threatening a false dowry case then why did he murder her. He could have simply reported it.
And even is his wife was cheating on him,
it is 'inhumane' to resort to murder as retaliation.